I think we’ve all been in situations where we’re sat with our friends talking about stuff, and one of you pulls up a picture of someone’s engagement ring on Facebook or Instagram. Everyone pitches in with their thoughts, whether they’re positive or negative. It’s the negative thoughts I’m interested in, I’m pretty sure we’ve all seen someone’s ring and thought to ourselves “wow, is that it?”. Sometimes, these thoughts are accompanied by one of your friends saying if they were proposed to with that ring, they’d say no.
It throws up an interesting wedding debate for me; is it wrong to feel underwhelmed by your engagement ring? What I mean is; should you always be happy with the ring no matter what, or are you entitled to feel a little let down if it’s not what you were hoping? I think the best way to discuss this is to look at both sides of the argument, so that’s exactly what we’ll do!
Yes: You Can Feel Underwhelmed
In the ‘yes’ corner we have some pretty hard-hitting arguments to justify being let down by an engagement ring. Yes, we know that it’s a material thing and the fact someone is willing to commit their life to you is the main thing that matters. But, if someone loves you so much, surely they should try their hardest to find the best ring possible? I mean, look at some of the rings here https://www.whiteflash.com/engagement-rings/tacori/ , and then imagine you get proposed to with a ring that’s just a cheap silver band. I don’t think it’s unjust to be a little let down in a scenario like this. Engagement rings are supposed to be special, they’re supposed to take months to save up for, that’s all part of what makes them magical. You want to know your other half has spent ages planning and saving for this, rather than going on Amazon and buying the first ring they see.
No: It’s Wrong To Feel Underwhelmed
Then, you have the argument for no, which is fairly obvious. If you’ve been in loads of relationships that keep falling through, and someone finally proposes to you, then this should be a huge moment in your life. It should be the best thing that’s ever happened to you, and you shouldn’t even be focusing on the ring. Who cares if it’s got a massive diamond or not? As you can see here https://www.theknot.com/content/how-much-to-spend-on-engagement-ring rings cost a lot of money, not everyone is rich enough to buy a massive diamond ring! You should be grateful for being lucky enough to have someone that loves you so much they’re ready to marry you.
I think the main thing is how bad the ring actually is. If you’re getting annoyed at the ring because the diamond is slightly too small or it’s cheaper than your friends, then that’s not okay. But, if the ring is just incredibly low quality and cheap – when you know your partner can definitely afford better – then I think you have every right to be upset. So, yes, you can feel underwhelmed, but only if it’s for the right reasons.
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